carnivalseb:

softheartedbutch:

it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.

Historically, the importance of coming out was put forward by Harvey Milk as a tactic for normalization through representation; if your librarian, your postal worker and seven of the people in your local sports fanclub are all gay & you’ve been friends for years with no disasters, the rhetoric of queers as a monstrous unknown Other collapses.
The thing is, Milk was mainly talking to other adults who had their own means of survival; their own incomes, their own houses.

Yes, homophobia has been used & is being used to eject people from their apartments & that is monstrous, & yes there are vulnerabilities which can cause you terrible harm as an adult, but when you are so much more vulnerable, your job is surviving.
The closet is a survival tactic, & that’s all it’s ever been.
It is not your job right now to be on the front lines of queer representation. Ellen DeGeneres & Laverne Cox are taking care of that so that you can be safe, & we’re going to need you to still be with us in ten years, ok?

You can find people who are safe to be fully open with, and you deserve to be able to do that but you do not owe the intimate details of the way you fall in love to people who would not treat you with basic human dignity.

People who will put you in danger have no right to your privacy, and no right to honesty from you, if that’s the way you want to frame it.

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thebibliosphere:

lierdumoa:

Saw this post about straight dudes feeling emasculated at the thought of taking their wife’s last name, and it gave me a sudden craving for fantasy media where some dude is called Leopold THE DESTROYER or some shit and there are all these rumors going around about how he got his moniker, all these made up stories about how he must have razed a village to the ground or slayed 12 dragons or some shit and it turns out he just took his wife’s last name.

“What was your name before?”

“Meadowalker.”

“…”

“I miss it sometimes y’know, but eh,” he smiles wistfully as he looks over to where his wife is sharpening her sword. “What can you do when you marry for love.”

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kanayavstheforcesofcapitalism:

markrial:

arizonaconservativegal:

Fun fact: Arizona is the only place in the country where the state mine inspector is an elected position

Another fun fact: this is one of my favorite political ads of all time, straight out of 2014

I forgot vampire bats were a thing and thought they were referring to the folklore kind of vampire

the subtle advocation for kids to be playing in the abandoned copper mines is also not great

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barduils:

victorian bitches will receive one (1) heartfelt homoerotic letter from their childhood best friend and be like “due to personal reasons i will be passing away”

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killveous:

viinria:

ahaze:

elphabaforpresidentofgallifrey:

SYMBROCK CONFIRMED

Update:

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gallifreyburning:

coneshotline:

the biggest influence tumblr has had on my life is that i always think of that ‘when white people do that half-jog across the road’ post when i do that white person half-jog across the road

#that white person closed mouth smile-ish-nod whatevertf we call that post #ruined my life #i can feel it happening and i cant stop it #ignorance was bliss lmao (@chiaroscuroverse)

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shattxrstar:

Anthropology 101 (Community 2x01) || Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (Bob Persichetti, Peter Ramsey and Rodney Rothman, 2018)

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kane52630:

They Live (1988) | dir. John Carpenter

(via animusrox)

poptartscondoms:

If you’re wondering how an individual can make a difference to the climate, here’s a way - use your money. You can donate as little as USD 0.33 to offset one ton of greenhouse gases. There’s lots of projects and you can filter them by type (waste, solar, electric vehicles etc.) and by country, and by price. 

I like the idea of being able to influence industrial pollution as well as restricting my own CO2 footprint

Tell your work about this

wethemachines:

Favorite ‘The Last Jedi’ press moments.

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firedrill:

thanks in advance: get this done by the time i press “send”

thanks for your interest: why’d you have to bring this up

would you be so kind: fucking do it

best: i have never physically met you

all best: this conversation is over

all my best: i wish you would die

happy to help: this is the easiest thing in my inbox

i hope this helps: i’ve done all i’m willing to do

i did a bit of research: i googled it, because you’re too lazy to

sorry to chase: answer my email

so sorry to chase: answer my FUCKING email

i am really sorry for being a pest but: i am LIVID that you are ignoring me

please contact my colleague: this isn’t my problem

i’m copying in my colleague: this isn’t my problem and i am thrilled about it

i’ll check and get back to you: i might forget to

i’ll let you know when i hear anything: i will forget to

can you check back with me in a week?: i’m hoping you will forget to

per our earlier conversation: i just yelled at you on the phone

great to chat just now: you just yelled at me on the phone

thanks!: i’m not mad at you

thanks!!: please don’t be mad at me

thanks!!!: i’m crying at my desk

please advise: this might be your fault

kindly advise: this is entirely your fault

mind if i swing by?: i’m already in the elevator

can you confirm for me: you told me before and i deleted the email

sorry if that was unclear: i think you’re an idiot

let me know if you need anything else: please never contact me again

Reblogging to add a direct quote that I used today -

Please respect my work process: just do it the way I told you to and stop arguing with me, I don’t care what you think

(via had-just-ten-hours-training)

natitheking20:

thepizzaqueen:

giantpeachy:

felweed:

railroadsoftware:

no

no

absolutely not. the only thing i’m slapping on him is a little kiss

move aside then

You fool, it’s a slap, you get nothing for hitting a home run
You will be shamed

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vikturi-is-mine:

gentlesharks:

explosiveflygon:

gentlesharks:

Baby Blacktip Reef shark!

One day that tiny baby will be a big shark able to rip people to shreds

most blacktip reef sharks are no more than 5.5ft long when mature. not only that, blacktip reef sharks are timid and shy, with no fatal human attacks documented. don’t comment stuff like this on my posts, save it for another post and stay off mine. thanks

gentlesharks has hAD IT

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lianabrooks:

flavoracle:

Mental Crop Rotation

When farmers grow the same crop too many years in a row, it can leave their soil depleted of minerals and other nutrients that are vital to the health of their fields.

To avoid this, farmers will often alternate the crops that they grow because some plants will use up different minerals (such as nitrogen) while other plants replenish those minerals. This process is known as “crop rotation.”

So the next time you find that you need to step away from a project to work on something else for a while, don’t beat yourself up for “quitting” that project. Give yourself permission to practice “mental crop rotation” to maintain a healthy brain field.

Because I’ve found that when that unnecessary guilt and pressure are removed from the process, a good mental crop rotation can help you feel more energized and invigorated than ever once you’re ready to rotate back to that project.

I like this idea.

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vamprisms:

vamprisms:

im going to be honest with you marvel this looks like a chuck tingle cover

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